tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3156652403515145474.post3181345683437344004..comments2023-05-01T04:53:36.540-06:00Comments on what we may be: Thoughts on Marriage, Partnerships and Pregnancyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17668972028711886536noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3156652403515145474.post-74291553546761636852007-10-25T15:26:00.000-06:002007-10-25T15:26:00.000-06:00Yeah, and whatever happens in your life will be fo...Yeah, and whatever happens in your life will be for the best, anyway. :)Heather Is Cooler Than Hollywoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12919645447690537609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3156652403515145474.post-4072515618269906002007-10-23T20:40:00.000-06:002007-10-23T20:40:00.000-06:00Since I have hands-on experience with this, I am g...Since I have hands-on experience with this, I am going to be completely 100% honest with you.<BR/><BR/>Single mommyism is VERY hard. You should wait until you're stable in a good career and have a house of your own, if you truly want to go it alone. <BR/><BR/>Before I moved to Utah, I had a baby who was the result of the baby craving. BAD IDEA. After two months of needy infant I washed my hands of the whole situation, left him with my mom, and took off as far away as I could go. It was a stupid decision, and I regret it, but there's nothing I can do about it now. <BR/><BR/>All I'm saying is make sure you're 100% serious about wanting to be burdened. I am not going to soften it down... babies are a BURDEN. They demand all your time, financial resources, and attention. Having a baby is a pain (pun!), and then you have to deal with crazy hormones for up to 2 years. Having a person to share the responsibility with is not just "socially-acceptable" but it is honestly something that can be necessary at times, for mental-health reasons.<BR/><BR/>If I didn't have a husband when I had my daughter, I probably would have taken off on her, too. He forces me to deal with him, her, and other responsibilities I would rather not think about, lol.<BR/><BR/>This is not to say that I don't want other kids. I want to have maybe one more before I'm 30. However, I am finally in a good situation for my sanity- my husband stays home and plays mommy, I work, and I go out with friends. I get to satisfy my cravings for freedom, and still have a home to come back to. It's really the best of both worlds. One day, you will find a man or woman who wants the same things out of life as you. When that happens, having a baby is much, much easier. :)Heather Is Cooler Than Hollywoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12919645447690537609noreply@blogger.com